What on earth are you doing?

I was on my way home when I saw someone fishing in a rotten river. The water was brown and there's no sign of life. There never was.
I was thinking "What on earth are you doing with your life?"
And then out of nowhere, a thought pops up in my head.
Maybe to him, there is hope. Maybe he believes enough in it. It's like what everyone else is doing. It's like what you are doing. People doubt you.
They asked about what on earth you are doing, they tell you how your life's supposed to be. Everyone will try to control your life. Like what I just did, even if it's just on my mind.
But we do not have the right to judge, dear. We don't have the right to doubt people. We don't even have the right to put them down by saying anything, even if you think it's good for them. You just have no right. For everyone is born with our own wildest dreams, that maybe no one will ever believe it. Maybe no one believes that you'll get there.
But you have one person. That oneperson who believes in you. And I'm sure you just need that one.
So who's that? I'm not talking about your life partner or whatever. It's YOU!!
Yes it's you! Your greatest asset is you.
Keep in mind that you can, because you are the pilot of your life. Time flies, but again, the pilot is you.
So decide now. Whether you'll be sorry, be afraid to take off, or you'll be brave to take off even if you have no idea how big the storm is.
It's on you. My suggestion is, be brave.
Take chance and get out of the storm as a winner!

Your Ideal Things

Everybody has a standards on everything. How they would like to be judged, what kind of book they are outside, what color defines them, and the kind of book they want to buy, read, and re-read it over and over again. It is called the ideal things.
We all have it. And the things that we pay attention the most is our ideal things about our lover. Who we want him to be. How we want him to treat us. And many other things.
People said, well, girls said, it is hard to be a girl. You give too much and you get your heart broken, and this and that.
Well, think again.
Which one is harder, being a girl, or being a boy?
A boy is judged by how he treats his girl, he is judged by everything. Someone said, if you find a guy who pauses his video games to text you back, marry him. Isn't it such a low standards for us to marry someone? Do you know that you worth more than just pausing a video games?
That puts a boy, to a unacceptable standards. The society taught him to do that.
Every broken girl blame someone, a boy from their past that did her wrong, and make her strong.
But if a boy is broken, nobody cares! Dude, grow up, you're supposed to be strong.
It isn't fair, is it?
Your ideal things, is it fair?
Who are you to judge?
There's a quote, a lot of quotes, that confused every boy's mind. Life puts them in a road with so many branch. Be a gentleman, be the guy who pays for everything, be the guy who loves to bring flowers.
So what is your ideal man?
Does he exist?
Or is it merely your over-thinking stuffs, creating your kind of prince charming?
I'm not telling you that he doesn't exist. He does.
It's just, you should remember that to get yourself a prince, you should be a princess.

The way we love

Being a daughter or a son, we are taught by our parents. How we should tie our own shoes, button up our shiny shirt, respecting the elders, and a lot of things.
Being one of a class member, we are taught by the community, how we should react when someone teases you, how to not yell and panicking when you lost your favorite pen, how to be a good friend, and again, a lot of things.
Being a girl is another thing.
We are often get too caught up with prince charming and fairytale stuffs.
We place ourselves as such a lady in waiting. We place ourselves as the sleeping beauty, waiting for our princes to kiss us, and get us to such a beautiful fairytale.
And then, reality strikes.
We have our first heart break. Second heart break.
Enough heart breaks that make us raise our standards on men, enough tears that makes us strong, enough sleepless nights to mourn about how things should be that make us stand in our own feet, and have our own life.
And now, you're another person.
You're no longer a  girl who believes everything. You are strong. You are mature. You conquer your own self, and be the lady you want to.
And then God finally sees that you need someone, so He delivers you this man, whom He has trusted the key of your heart, to you.
As a girl, a lady, mother and father taught us to hold back all the love that we had.
They said, you're not his wife yet. You should not concern about his happiness.
Why would you stay, look at his flaws!
He doesn't have what it takes to make you happy, dear.
As a girl, we were taught to be selfish in love.
The parents, the community.
The guy should pay for your lunch, dinner. He's your lover, not your father.
The guy should buy you flowers whenever you're sad. He's your lover, not a florist.
The guy should be able to read your mind. He's no mind reader!
The guy should provide you cookies and cream gelato whenever you want it. He's not a grocery store.
The guy should do everything. Once again, he's your lover. Not your driver, not your credit card.
Well, who decides what's right?
So what if we share to pay our lunch?
Or what if we, girls, want to do more for the one we love?
Too many times, we lose who we are.
We forget how to love.
His car doesn't meet my mother's criteria, someone said.
Mother said it's not the ethics for me to take care of him when he's sick.
Father said it's not good if he and i meet too often. We may get bored.
So, who knows what's best?